Being in a relationship is not all rosy. Often, something will happen that will bear your partner down emotionally. An old saying comes to mind, “Behind every successful man is a woman”. If you are anything like me, you definitely want success. That said, it is a no-brainer that you need to motivate your female partner.

I know, you might be thinking that you do not know how to keep your partner motivated. Maybe, you think you have to go all out and spend a lot to make her happy. Nothing is far from the truth. Here are 7 ways to motivate your woman.

1. Listen

I am not a relationship expert, but even I know that communication is a huge factor for the success of a relationship. Women want an attentive partner and a listening ear. Personally, I advocate for 70% listening and 30% speaking. While she talks, acknowledge whatever she says. Otherwise, you risk irritating her, which will push her to shut you out. Not fun! However, when you decide to talk, do not try to fix anything. That is where we go wrong as men most of the time.

2. Gift her or Celebrate

Brilliant right? It does not matter how small a gift is. A surprise bouquet of flowers will suffice, or a box of chocolate if she loves them. Maybe even share a bottle of wine occasionally. There is no shortage of monthsary celebration ideas. On the other hand, you can also opt for an occasional celebration. For instance, planning a trip just for the two of you or a weekend getaway is a great way to keep her motivated.

If you choose a monthsary gift, make it random and give it when it is least expected. That way, you might just end up, unknowingly, brightening her day when it is gloomy.

3. Be positive

The law of attraction really does work. It is said that a smile is contagious, and so is positivity. Both go together. When you are sparkly, affirmative and supportive, she will feel uplifted. Helping her see the good over the bad might take some effort, but it will be worth it. Additionally, positivity does not only help your partner feel better, it also makes you feel good about yourself.

When you are positive, things just seem to fall into place. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!

4. Commend and congratulate

Often, you will find that you will suggest something to make her feel better. You might be comfortable with what you think is right, but it might be an audacious task for her. On those days that she follows through on your advice and suggestion, it is important that you recognize and commend her. Other times, just congratulate her on the little achievements in her life. Like doing a course, changing careers, or landing a good job. The fact that you spot the little changes will make her feel loved and motivated to do more.

5. Do not over praise or be overbearing

Praising is great and a significant way of motivating your partner. However, as with anything, in excess, praise can seem insincere. Avoid gushing too much about anything and everything. A periodic reminder of achievements will help remind her that she has made some steps ahead. In return, she will be motivated to push. Just take care not to put too much pressure on your woman. If you pressure her too much, you might annoy her and stress her even more.

6. Be Supportive

Companionship and relationships are about being there for each other and pushing or pulling when stuck. Doing it with moderation and love is, however, important. When she does something out of the ordinary be there for her. When she wants to get out of her or both your comfort zones, acknowledge the effort. Even better, be her cheerleader and number one fan. Whether it is emotionally, financially or physically, find a way to be supportive.

7. Lend a hand

There is nothing as genuine as willingly taking up tasks that are normally hers. When you lend a hand with whatever chores of responsibilities she has, your partner feels motivated and loved. Depending on what her schedule is and the tasks she plans to accomplish for the day or week, offer to take some of her plate. Let her relax and worry less. Lending a hand is a wonderful gift literally does not cost you a thing but buys you more than money would.

Of course by doing all these, you are also cultivating your relationship and a culture. Everybody is stressed and overwhelmed occasionally. You might be the one motivating your woman today, and she will do the same tomorrow. As humans, we are inclined to repay good deeds in equal measure. Besides, the more you give, the more you receive!

Published: 2018-05-11 13:10:19