Everyone knows that patience is a virtue, but it’s a virtue easier to talk about than to practice. The benefits of practicing patience are enormous,andit include better mental health, better relationships with friends and strangers, and happiness. Most importantly, staying patient helps you focus on your goals. Your main aim when dealing with your children is keeping them safe while showing them unconditional love and you never want them to forget that. Here are 7 positive parenting tips to become a more patient mom.

1. Evaluate the Situation

The first thing you should always do when you notice yourself losing patience with your children is take a step back and look at the situation objectively. You may be imposing your own standards on your child when he or she is behaving in an objectively appropriate way for a child. Learning your own limits will help you calm down more quickly, and your entire attitude will benefit from your new self-awareness.

2. Try to Understand Your Child’s Motivation

If your child’s behavior is not appropriate, try to figure out what’s going on. Is your child tired? Hungry? Frustrated? Your child may need help, without being able to properly express that need. You can take tips from other child experts by reading books or talking to other parents. When you get caught up in the moment, you may not realize that your expectations may simply not be reasonable. You will feel better when you know that what you are feeling is normal.

3. Take a Break If You Need To

If you really feel like you’re losing your patience, it’s all right if you take a break from the situation. You have limits because you’re human, and it’s okay to admit it. You’ll feel better if you take even a short break and come back to the situation feeling more calm and objective. Even if you can’t leave, step out of the room and take some deep breaths.

4. Lower Your Voice

Especially if your child is making a lot of noise or yelling, make your voice calm and quiet. Your child will have to lower his or her noise level just to hear you. This will also show your child that you are calm. If you become loud in an attempt to control the situation, you could just end up making the situation much more stressful and chaotic.

5. Return to the Child Ego State

It’s good to be in the Parent Ego State much of the time because you have to spend most of your time being a responsible adult. You can’t shirk your responsibilities for the sake of fun, especially once you become a parent. However, reverting to the Child Ego State is important too. You need to remember what it’s like to have fun and be open-hearted again. Identifying with your child will help you feel empathy for the situation.

6. Adjust Your Schedule, or Be More Flexible

If you are losing your patience because you feel like you are getting off schedule, you may need to reconsider your plans and how you set up your days. If there are certain tasks your child has trouble with,give those more time. Practice makes perfect. Instead of encouraging your child to hurry, encourage him or her to be careful and do a good job. Encourage pride in your child’s accomplishments, and keep track of when certain goals are met.

7. Incorporate Calming Habits into Your Day

Practice patience in small ways by deliberately learning new habits. You may want to schedule meditation at certain times of the day, especially when you greet the day. Count to ten slowly when you notice yourself feeling impatient, and take deep calming breaths. Instead of reacting immediately, always make yourself wait before acting.

What works for one person won’t necessarily work for another, but you will get better with practice. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by learning how to become a more patient person. You will feel better, and your family members will enjoy each other more. Communication is one of the keys to a healthy family relationship, and learning patience will help you slow down and listen to each other. Don’t forget to see how other families are dealing with life’s little problems, by talking to other parents or visiting sites which talk about baby stuff . And last but not least, don’t forget to be patient with yourself.

Published: 2018-04-02 16:31:34